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By fred | February 9, 2008
For more years than I care to think about, my bride of 58 years Sally and I have had morning breakfast discussions related to those writing answers to distressed ladies and guys about thier dating, love life and marriages. I think much of the advise stinks. What does a 78 year old guy know about the subject. I think it is a hell of a lot, try me! Love ya all, Uncle Fred
Topics: Dating-love-sex-marriage | 5 Comments »
February 9th, 2008 at 7:07 pm
What I want to know Fred is how you get a wife “65″ to get interested in sex again with me”72″. I am willing but she says she doesn’ like it any more.
Bill
February 9th, 2008 at 10:06 pm
Hi Uncle Fred, Just checking out your new blog and I certainly am interested in your views on Love Sex and the M word. I am one generation behind you in years, and one generation ahead of todays youth. I was raised by the adage “respect your elders” and I know that may seem to some as intellectually childish, considering the mess most of our “elders” have made in their own lives. But I do believe that everyone, no matter how young or old can teach from their own experiences. Assuming of course they have learned from them. If you are indeed 78 years old (and not a 32 year old trying to play cyber selling games)…then I’m very interested in what you have learned on the above subjects. Dating-Love-Sex-Marriage. You say you and Sally have been married for 58 years…an incredible achievment in either committment or lunacy…what mistakes did you make, and learn to avoid repeating… and what advice can you offer those of us who want to seriously consider the wisdom of your experience. I will check back, and am looking forward to reading your entries…I am hoping that humour is one of your keys to any successful relationship…Ciao, Bella
Uncle Fred’s comments:
Right now I haven’t the time to go into this completely. Related to Sally and I. When we dated, girls did not let a guy put them in the sack on the first, second, third of tenth date. Most made sure you married them before the sexual act was attempted. Also I wanted to spend every waking hour with her. Since my prostate operation, sex is not a option, still she is my best friend, still my lover in thought if not in deed, if I had to be in a room with another person only for my entire lifespan I would want it to be her. 58 years of marriage to her has been nothing, I wish it could be a thousand years.
The basic reason I put in this section in my BLOG was for the younger kids. Especially the ladies, from reading their letters to the editor, they are really only in love with love, with the idea of marriage, not realizing that if they get the wrong guy they are in for a life of not love, but of slavery, being his sex companion, like it or not, is one thing, but if he is not a helpmate, the girls can get caught up in a deal where they are his cleaning lady, his cook, the mother of his kids, working like dogs with little real help or love – while he leads a merry life. Girls have to evaluate when they are dating if the guy is ‘TRAINABLE’ if he is not forget the son of a bitch. Dump him immediately. Signs he is not for you, take this example – dating he goes over and talks only to the guys. Next time he calls for a date ask him to call his buddies and date one of them. If he asks why – tell him that on the last date he seemed to enjoy their company more than yours. That should wake him up, he will then drop you –or wake up. Let him drop you, you should be happy to get out of the clutches of a guy like him.
Another last thought in training young men. If on a date he goes around to the drivers side and gets in the car without opening the car door for you, just stand there, do not open the door. If he yells or asks why? Say that “Gentlemen open doors for ladies!” If he won’t do it, forget him. What I am saying to all the gals, if the guy is not trainable then forget the SOB, or you will be his slave forever. In many cases a girl is far better off never being married than to have a life of hell with a complete self centered jerk. Will try to spend more time on this subject at a later time. Uncle Fred
February 10th, 2008 at 3:31 pm
Regarding the comments by William K. Well, you are 72 and she is 65 and not interested. Amazing that you are still in good shape. If you can still get the darn thing up without drugs than I salute you, most your age can’t. The drug thing is what makes most elder ladies pissed off about sex, and I don’t really blame them as it seems to put a time frame on love, like they GOTTA do it within a certain time frame, they hate that, and to some extent I sure do not blame them.
I have no answer for you, hey I am not chickening out you gotta remember that the surgeon took out my prostate, it was live a full life- or else you die. I choose to live. Sorry, try romantic evenings out, you have the bucks, flowers, all that stuff, love notes, if that doesn’t work forget it, live with the wonderful memories of what you had when the lady was interested. Sorry I have to poop out on this one. Uncle Fred
March 20th, 2008 at 2:47 pm
Dear Bella, I should have gotten back to you sooner, I am still learning how to moderate my Chipping BLOG, a learning experience for a old duffer like me. I have thought about what you said, etc, and about our modern age dating compared to when I was dating in the late 1940′s.
I truly think a part of the problem is ladies have lost a certain amount of respect from men, the young men of today. They are toooo damn easy. Maybe it is their reading where there are more of them than the guys and seem to be chasing them, not the other way around as it should be. If the girls do not demand respect, they are not going to get it. Take the sex before marriage, that to me is so damn stupid. Why marry a lady if you get it free? The girls should have the guy dying to make love to them, wanting them so bad that they propose marriage. Now a girl may say, that if I don’t give it to them there is another girl that will. Could be! But I will bet that is not the case with all the guys. It may be with some hot looking stud that is playing the field, however not with a average guy.
Which brings up another subject. The hotest looking guy and the hotest looking gal in most cases are lousy wife or husband material. Go to Florida and look at all the resorts full of gorgeous looking ladies all divorced, you know who has their husbands now? Gals that are not nearly so hot looking, gals that appreciate a good solid husband, this is the same with gals, the hot guy has too much temptation, the guy that is a bit timid, not so handsome he is the one you want to nail to a lifetime. He will appreciate a good gal, take care of her like a princess, love her forever, work his ass off for his lady love.
Gals and guys must remember that the hotest looking car (guy/gal) takes the most maintance, tempermental, etc. The old solid Ford will keep running forever, give you a lifetime of devotion. Thats what makes a marriage, a solid gal or guy, not the best looking or the hottest, those are the ones to forget, or if you gotta have a fling, do it, but realize that it is that do not get involved in a long relation with them.
Give me your thoughts. Fred
October 16th, 2008 at 11:19 am
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