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THANK YOU – & – DRESS / APPEARANCE – OUR NATION’S YOUTH
By fred | July 30, 2009
Sometimes an old so and so like me likes to pop off on a subject – so here I go.
The subject of the day is the youth of our nation.
First off, I think most of the kids are super – all I know, all in our family are good kids, sure they can use a bit of improvement and that is what I want to write about.
I think we screwed up raising our kids, and then our kids in turn did the same with their kids the grandkids of many getting this message. Unfortunately I do not have grandchildren a regret I feel badly about but had no control over.
So how could the super kids of today improve themselves, improve their chances of getting on in the world? You may laugh but two words would do it – one is ‘Thank you’ the other words are ‘Dress and appearance.’
Let’s start with the two words, “Thank you!” How many times have any of you send a gift – be it money, a ten or twenty dollar bill or more, or maybe a birthday gift to a grandchild or young person under the age of twenty – hey forget that – even over the age of twenty and you hear absolutely nothing. Never!
You can say, “So what?” Well, I will tell you the lack of using those words are a big mistake, could be bucks in their pockets – that may be one answer, advancement in the business world or whatever world the child intends to work in and make his or her living in. THAT is what I am talking about.
Start little, the child gets a few nice $20 bills from his grandma for his or her birthday and Christmas, the child never send a tiny note thanking grandma (or grandpa) , even a short e-mail, a two minute phone call would do, but no the child cannot be bothered to take the time. Well, likely the first one off grandmas list as they grow older is that child.
So that same grandma has another grandchild. That grandchild always takes the time to either phone or write a note thanking grandma for her gift. Who is the favorite? It is difficult for grandma to ever want to take that child off her gift list. And if the child continues and always is considerate of everything grandma does for her who is the favorite? Guess who may get a hunk of grandma’s will, her money, assets when she goes. Her favorite usually will benefit not only financially but in every other way that grandma can help.
Up this to business, two children entering the business world, two very equal children with excellent personalities, brains, looks, etc. One has learned that anytime a person does something to help him or her that he or she thank them sincerely for what they did.
The child that takes gifts, help without ever giving a word of appreciation is now competing against the child that has learned this valued lesson of giving thanks. Who gets promoted first? – who gets the first raises? – who goes to the top the fastest? – you can be damn sure it is the one that has always thanked his or her boss and those working along side or even those working under his or her management. This is a fact of life. I wish every child could learn this valued lesson of life, so simple. The words “thank you” used whenever someone has done anything nice or helpful can make such a big difference in children’s lives. We have been extremely remiss by not teaching our children to use these words more often.
Dress and appearance – I have written about this before. The world we live in is really nothing more than a huge group of clubs. The way you look is the club you join, like it or not, it is the way others, the people of the world will category you.
Since I am more familiar with men than our lovely ladies, let me use them as an example.
First we have a flashy dresser – using wild colors in his jacket, ties, maybe with long hair will be stuck in one club.
Next we have a well dressed man, wearing subdued colors, white or faded blue shirts, tie of soft matching colors, a good haircut, polished shoes, dark matching socks is another club.
A man with Levi’s – a T-shirt and tennis shoes is another.
Another may be sloppy dress with pants hanging on his hips, shirt hanging out is another.
O. K. I am sure you get the message. In most cases the well dressed businessman, not the flashy dresser, but the one showing class in his appearance will get the goodies, all the goodies in the business world. This is another fact of life that is so forgotten and not drummed into our children. You may say this is old fashioned, not so.
Look at our nation’s leaders, the leaders of our industry, the top ranked professors, most of the world’s male leaders dress this way. If your children wish to join the elite of this world, then they have to learn the rules of membership in this exclusive club. The number one rule is proper dress and proper appearance and this does not mean long hair, and a messy appearance.
Remember the true story about a brilliant young man that had long hair, wore a T-Shirt, Levi’s and flip flops without socks when presenting a business plan to a banker. He was turned down.
The next day he got a haircut, dressed in a subdued business suit, black polished shoes, white shirt and matching tie. He goes to another bank and offers the same business plan and it is immediately accepted. He gets his loan to establish his business. Why? Think about it, – he was smart enough to realize that to get the help he needed he had to join the club, when he walked in properly dressed the banker immediately listen as he would to a fellow club member.
The long hair casual dress was scary to the first banker, the banker did not want a casual person getting his money, he wanted a person that look and acted properly that he felt save dealing with. This story is true and it is just one case, one situation in the world of business or getting on in the world of business.
Yes, you may see some billionaires, millionaires that have already made it that may look a bit scruffy but they can afford to be, they have made it. If our kids wish to get to that point in life they darn well have to be as polished as they can be on the way up to get to that point in life.
I fear greatly that in many cases we have not taught our children, the youth of our nation these two simple but so important facts of life – “Thank you!” & “Dress & appearance.”
A shame as so many of our wonderful kids will be held back, never realize their potential because they were not taught these two so very important things, yet simple facts of life – that would benefit them greatly!
Uncle Fred
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